You Have Got to Know (So I am Gonna Tell You)

I have been frazzled today.

I finally (Thanks) decided to name him  Hugsiey Tumbles.

I finally (Thanks) decided to name him Hugsiey Tumbles.

I tell you that so you will know that I am not one of the “life is always wonderful” people.

There is a huge difference between “life is always wonderful” and “everything works out in the end”.

The person who is always saying “Life is always wonderful” is, most likely, in denial. They are not seeing what is out there and are not willing to admit things can be bad. I may make a few enemies here, but I include the “It’s God‘s Will” people here, too.

I have seen too many people use the comment “It’s God’s Will” or “If It’s God’s Will” to allow them to explain away anything bad. It’s a type of denial, in my opinion, because I truly don’t think God has worked out a plan in which it is predetermined that you have to suffer and be miserable and things just go to heck. It just doesn’t make sense.

Quit telling me that it was God’s Will that my grandmother die or that I had my stroke. I believe God gave us choices and consequences come of those choices. Then, God uses our choices to help give us other choices.

Do I think God is always trying in everything to help us in life? Yes.

Do I think God prearranged all these things? No.

I think God works with us through our free will to “nudge” us toward that beautiful life we could be having.  We make the choices; God gives us more choices; some of those choices are tough and we may have to go through some rough spots because it finally got to the point that we were not following the easier path.

It makes sense to me, but I am never quite sure if I am explaining it right.

I had the stroke because I kept choosing to eat wrong and be stressed out.  There were a lot of ways for me to avoid that stroke path, but, finally, it had to happen; I didn’t give it any other choice.

The way I see it, God allowed me to live and still showed me the wonderfulness that life can offer even in my circumstances.  I, finally, chose to begin following the better path (maybe not the best one, yet) and then things could start to smooth out.  Notice I said, “start”.  I have a long way to go and still have a lot of choices to make.

But, I digress.  The other side of the “Life is always wonderful” coin is the “everything works out in the end.”  I think I just explained all of that.

That is me, and my day (look, full circle) was Frazzled!

In brief, I took Dad to Dialysis.  That is a 6 hour trip from start to finish.  We do it three times a week.  For Mom and me it is getting Dad there, waiting 2 hours, then lunch, then either going somewhere for an errand, or coming back for another 1 1/2 hours until he is finished.  Then, hurry home so Dad can get settled in and eat, and I can get home and do whatever by 4:00pm.

That wasn’t the frazzled part; that was just how the day started.

I was tired;  I didn’t take the best way to the dialysis clinic;

I got home and “remembered” (thanks to an email ad) that it was election day;

I drove in a hurry to the library to vote (two main streets were closed);

I went to the grocery; then ate just before my buddy called me to “go eat”; I went to “eat” (low, low carbs) with him so we could talk;

I dropped my blood pressure pill on the floor and couldn’t find it, right after spilling coffee while trying to “wipe up a smaller spill”;

I decided to go to grocery after all;

I was nervous and anxious by the time I got home, then realized all the online work I needed to do for blogging and Amazon and “things”.

So, I was frazzled. (I also left out the part where I had this post 1/3 done and accidentally “deleted” it)

Okay, all that, just to help you to see that “everything works out in the end” does not mean “everything works out today”.

You still have to live in the moment, but keep an eye on tomorrow.  What does help me is that, if I will keep that eye on tomorrow and remember the working out part, I can make it through today and, usually, calm myself down (which I have now done).  Because, you never know what is really going on…

You need to look at tomorrow and know that it will all work out, so that you can work through today without having to live in denial.

I love you all…



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  • magsx2  On May 9, 2012 at 3:48 am

    I love the name you chose for the monkey, well done. 🙂

    I agree, it is up to us and the choices we make in life. We can have a very well laid out plan, but sometimes no matter how well planned things do change, and we just have to deal with things as they appear before us.


    • kindredspirit23  On May 9, 2012 at 10:35 am

      Yes, and realizing that our plans may and will change and that they still work out in the end can help us to accept the change and live in it for the better instead of fighting against it so hard (by fighting, I am not referring to the type of fight I did against my stroke; I merely quit fighting the idea of a stroke, accepted it, and am making new choices concerning how I will live).


  • Soma Mukherjee  On May 9, 2012 at 12:18 am

    Hugs to Hugsie tumbles 🙂
    what a lovely thought provoking write up true
    Life can never be wonderful all the time..well may be in a 2 hr movie but life is not a 2hr movie…its long and filled with roses and thorns..
    God gave us so many beautiful things but never told us to eat oily food that we did to ourselves, never asked us to smoke ..that we did to our selves..and then blame god for everything….he cant be spoon feeding every one…
    Life is like a see-saw..somedays you will be up and somedays down…it has been like that it, will be like that…all we can do is keep going and keep as much positivity as much we can gather from inside us


    • kindredspirit23  On May 9, 2012 at 1:08 am

      I think part of it would be to learn to make choices that led us to a better, more positive life and avoid those harsh choice that God might have to offer us if we don’t.


  • Aspergers Girls  On May 9, 2012 at 12:10 am

    {{{{hugs}}}} love and light to you; thank you for sharing these words. Yes, there are always choices. Much love, Sam


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