The Distance of Those Around

I was reading a blog this morning from Joe C. Combs 2.  A fascinating piece of work, it had me thinking about something I have had on my mind, off and on, for months:  Why is it, that no one here follows my blog?

I mean, I have a lot of followers, people who tell me how much they enjoy what I have to say.  I even have those who I have a longer, more detailed conversation with over time and comments (ie.  Sam, Soma, Jmmcdowell, and buckwheatsrisk come to mind easily).  I appreciate each and every person who comments or reads my blog, whether once or following.

It’s not that; it’s not a matter of greed or need; it’s a desire of sorts to, simply, want to understand what it is that keeps people who are close to someone physically, emotionally, and family from choosing to understand what is being said by another of their clan or neighbor.

My son tells me he collects my posts and reads as he can.  I am not putting down any one for not following or reading.  This is more basic; this is on the level of “a prophet in his own country” kind of thing.  I am not a prophet; I am just someone with something to say who is wondering why the people of the area don’t, at least, read it and say whatever.

Sounds like a rant and rave, doesn’t it?  Sorry.  Not my intention.  I will get back to the point I got from Joe’s post.  I am not certain if it was a point he intended, but I got it.  Celebrities, prophets, people with something to say have, traditionally, lost out a lot of times when it comes to close family.

I sort of understand it.  I start saying stuff I believe in and, quickly, there will be those who know me (well or not) who say, “Well, when he was little, he…” and go to  point out that I was not always that way.  As I have said in earlier posts, I was a very nervous, shy, backwards person for the longest time.  I worried all the time and was always trying to “not make waves”.  That stopped, especially, after the stroke.  I became different; I believe God allowed me to see differently.  I think He allowed me to understand what I had been doing that was hurting me so badly, so I could stop.  I worry now, but not like I did.  I don’t lose much sleep (for that, anyway) over worrying.  I try to hit things head on.  But, people who know me well do not seem to believe that is possible.  I must be as I have always been.

Perhaps, it is a bit unsettling to have someone close change a lot.  Perhaps, because I am not as I was, I seem strange and out of place to those closely around me.

It’s just a thought; it’s just a question I am asking.  Not everyone is that way.  There are those who are accepting me.  I just realized that there is a very small percentage of people who are following this blog who know me well.  It seemed odd, but is starting to make sense.

What do you think?  I would put a vote box on here, but I don’t know how it is done.  As usual, I would love to hear your comments on this topic.  You all are some of the most talented, intelligent people I know and your opinions matter to me, so they will matter to anyone reading this post.  Let’s hear it.

Do you believe that people who change are, normally, recognized as doing so by those close to them?



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  • Rev Dani Lynn  On August 13, 2012 at 11:04 pm

    I love how your personality comes through in your posts, I think that’s great. I’m “following”. – – Re your question, I’ve seen that it takes longer for those who have known me longer and see/talk to me on a regular basis, to acknowledge changes in me. Sometimes people prefer to stick to their preconceived and/or current ideas. It takes less brain power. And sometimes acknowledging positive changes in others forces one to look harder at oneself, and some people choose not to go there. But if I’m honest with myself, there was much about me that I kept to myself and never allowed others to see, various things for various reasons. And if I factor in how much I never really knew myself… – – so now some of them look at me funny! LOL! Me learning about myself will probably be an unending growth process. But I have absolutely seen that when I am brave and allow people to see “me”, relationships, communication, etc., is much, much better. – – I could get deeper into this but I don’t want to leave you too lengthy a comment, but keep in mind that people respond to things from their perspective. What they see in you could be very different than what you see in you. And we reflect off each other, so everyone that looks at you will see someone/something different, they’ll each see a reflection of themself, be it positive or negative. I believe we’re here, in part, to learn from each other. 🙂 Love & Light.


    • kindredspirit23  On August 14, 2012 at 10:03 am

      Agreed. Thanks for the following. If you have a blog, I will be stopping by shortly.


  • Soma Mukherjee  On July 11, 2012 at 12:03 am

    Thanks for the mention Scott agree with what Sussie said …


    • Soma Mukherjee  On July 11, 2012 at 12:09 am

      sorry the comment got posted before i could complete writing…also I follow some 345 blogs, it is physically impossible for me to comment on each blog everyday…i pick up the ones who post blogs once or twice a week first and then go to the ones who post daily or frequently…and for some i have kept one day to read and comment on all their posts for that week,…
      it does help if posts have something like a quiz or a question


      • kindredspirit23  On July 11, 2012 at 1:01 am

        You do whatever you have to do. I was merely concerned because I hadn’t seen you on my blogs for a couple of days and that was unusual. I totally understand. I was not upset, just worried.
        Glad you are fine and doing well.


  • combs2jc  On July 10, 2012 at 3:19 am

    Scott you did a great job with this. I am honored that you would mention me in your post Scott thank you. I remember reading in the bible that Jesus was not accepted in Nazareth as anything other than “the carpenter’s kid”. I guess we all get that. But you are reaching people with your blog. Here’s something for you too think about. I wonder how many times someone has printed off one of your posts to show someone (I’m taking one to work). So you see those numbers on your stats page don’t really show your reach.
    Keep up the good work my friend.


    • kindredspirit23  On July 10, 2012 at 8:52 am

      I am nearly speechless. What you are doing/saying staggers me. My whole like I have always felt that I have something to say that others should here. To know that, not only is this happening, but it is happening because of the stroke (in part) just makes me feel so wonderful.
      Thank you. It is always a joy to have new friends make themselves known,


  • buckwheatsrisk  On July 9, 2012 at 10:42 pm

    thank you for the mention btw! also, what is not their norm makes them uncomfortable we walk outside our comfort zones and theirs.


  • buckwheatsrisk  On July 9, 2012 at 10:40 pm

    i think in their minds if we don’t fit their idea of a mold then we don’t belong


  • Aspergers Girls  On July 9, 2012 at 8:43 pm

    Thanks for mentioning me within the post…..that is so kind. You are a wonderful person. I get what you are saying. God has worked wonders with my mind, spirit, and heart…I have changed at a deep level, but some of my family can only see me through a narrow scope of who they think I am…but I know who I am. Yours is one of my favorite blogs…honest, real, and kind. Keep it coming. LBS 🙂


    • kindredspirit23  On July 10, 2012 at 12:07 am

      Wow! That is the type of compliment I would wait nearly forever for!
      I know you have changed. I can see it from the limited time I have known you and only through your blog.


  • Indira  On July 9, 2012 at 4:13 pm

    I think the ratio is 50-50, if you change for better some definitely recognize, others with ego problem will ignore. As for blogs most of family and friend don’t follow . They may not like our topics. Let us care for those who follow and like.


  • jmmcdowell  On July 9, 2012 at 2:02 pm

    I think the changes are noticed more by others if the changes impact them somehow. If, for example, A and his wife always went to movies every few weeks and now A doesn’t want to go to many because he doesn’t like what’s being released.

    As for close friends and family following the blog? A few of mine do, but not many. And very few of them leave comments. I think that’s common. And I think it’s also common for most followers to read without leaving likes and comments. My post views always exceed the number of people commenting and liking.


  • susielindau  On July 9, 2012 at 9:49 am

    I think it is hard to know what your question is?
    Everyone is busy so they will comment if it is easy to understand and make a quick point. Most skim too and only comment on others that come to their blog. I am amazed at how many stop by and are silent. That is okay too!
    I would add a question in bold to the bottom of the post. Have a great Monday!


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