A Post about a Post

Announcement:  I hit 1,000 likes on Tuesday!  Ok, on with the regularly scheduled program:

One of my wonderful Blogger/readers, Rian for “Truth and Cake” asked me to show some of my posts for my online dating site.  I am not sure if this is what she meant, but I decided that, since I have dragged all of you into my thought on dating  experience with several posts ( here, here, and here for starters) the least I could do is show you what I have now put on for the “about me” part.  I have talked and talked about how I have changed (read the poem). Read the post, think about it, and tell me (honestly) what you think:

I have been on this site for awhile and I have to admit, it has been frustrating.
From what I have been reading, many of you ladies feel the same way. We re both looking for something and I still have a hard time understanding why that is. We both are looking for sincerity and honesty. We are both looking for someone who will care for us for who we are and treat us right.
I think that starts by accepting the person for what they say on their profile. If you have doubts there, then it’s over before it has begun. So, I will make this pretty simple (I hope):
I am not worried about marriage; if it happens, it happens.
I do want to find someone who is open, honest, and caring.
I do want to find someone who I find intelligent and attractive.
I do want to find someone who has a good sense of humor.

I am assuming you want the same if you have read this far.
I want those things and believe I have them in myself.

I think the hard part is that “attractive” statement.
We all want someone we consider attractive. Whatever that is to each of us.
So, I have been thinking – HARD.
Attractive has a physical portion to it; however, here is what enhances outward beauty:
Honesty, faithfulness, caring, intelligence, manners, concern for others, smiling. I am sure there are more, but let’s face it…if someone has all those qualities, they certainly don’t have to be a model for me to find them attractive.
I had a problem a few years ago and I need the assistance of a cane some of the time. I am getting better, but there it is – no mountain climbing!

Here’s the deal:
I will look on here and find someone who is attractive to me because of all those reasons.
You look at my profile and you decide if I am attractive enough with all those qualities.
One of us can write the other. If we match up, wonderful.
If you want to know ever more, check out my blog at https://kindredspirit23.wordpress.com.
Here’s the obligation – Send a response! Please! Do you know how hard it is to look at a message you have sent and simply see “Read/Delete” or worse “Unread/Delete”?
It’s difficult. All I ask for is a simple “Thanks for the interest. I wish you well in your search.” Or, better yet, let me take you to dinner. What’s the harm in that? I will even pay. We can just meet and eat and talk. Then, if you choose, it is done. Go home and go back to whatever you were doing. It was just a few hours on one evening.
Are you that type of person? Can you take a small chance and see? It could be the start of something wonderful – you will not know unless you try.
Thanks to you who read this far – I do answer all of my inquiries!


Thanks.  Namaste,


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  • lostbythesea  On August 24, 2012 at 12:40 pm

    Indeed Scott! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and the Spirit of the unseen. I enjoyed it and certainly would have responded had I lived closer to your neck of the woods. I firmly believe chances open the door to opportunity, but the key to it is in our hands and everything happens for a reason. Namaste’


  • Marisa  On August 22, 2012 at 4:07 pm

    You know I’ve been one of your biggest cheerleaders! If women knew the kind, generous, thoughtful, intelligent, and quirky Scott I know they’d be lined up at your door. You have so much to offer, friend and I pray your “honest, faithful, caring, intelligent, mannerly, concern for others, smiling” woman finds her way to your heart. Until then, I know you will traverse on as usual blessing those who are fortunate enough to cross your path 😀




    • kindredspirit23  On August 22, 2012 at 10:25 pm

      Wow! Ron is sure a lucky guy! I think I have told him that before, but you can be sure to remind him for me!


  • Linda Stapleton de Martinez  On August 22, 2012 at 7:37 am

    If I were looking for a relationship online there is absolutely nothing that would put me off and very many things that would encourage me to give it a try. I guess one thing for me would be knowing the distance (physically) between where we live….I’m talking in principle, not in reality as you know I am miles away, in a different continent and am married. Do you have to specify a certain distance from your home? Just curious how it works out, but that is coming from someone who had a relationship for years with someone living 4,500 miles away! Maybe that’s why I think it is important to be close enough for it to be practical! I pray you find someone who is worthy of someone as wonderful as you, Scott.



    • kindredspirit23  On August 22, 2012 at 8:58 am

      Thank you, Linda. Yes, usually you have to specify distance. It is funny, though. I say 50 miles or less and I will get people several hundred miles away! People need to read and pay attention.
      🙂 Scott


  • Truth and Cake  On August 22, 2012 at 1:19 am

    Hey Scott! Wow, thanks for writing an entire post in response to my interest. I think your profile is fantastic: straightforward, honest, detailed, realistic. “Honesty, faithfulness, caring, intelligence, manners, concern for others, smiling.” I also think these qualities enhance attractiveness. Attraction is a sort of complicated thing, isn’t it? For me, it’s always gone way beyond the standard tall, dark and handsome, etc. Intelligence and a sense of humor are key. I only ever went on one online date when I was single and it didn’t go very well: the guy misrepresented himself (he didn’t look a thing like his picture) and he was kind of a jerk. C’est la vie. But you’re right–it’s just one night, and if nothing else, you get a good story out of it! I suppose online dating takes a bit of perseverance and a sense of humor. And I wish you both! Thanks for sharing!


    • kindredspirit23  On August 22, 2012 at 8:56 am

      Thank you! and, you are welcome.
      We shall see about the perseverance and the sense of humor – yes, so far it does take both.


  • buckwheatsrisk  On August 21, 2012 at 11:12 pm

    that sounds great!



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