It’s Just Plain Wrong and I am Really P*s**d

I was surfing a bit today, trying to read all the new posts and realizing I had accidentally followed a whole lot of posts that I didn’t mean to follow, just read. So, I am cleaning up, trying to figure out why this is “perfect” and I hit a site and read a post that leaves me…cold and angry. Here’s the post, but I will go ahead and talk about it and the problem.
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Teaching school is rough today, but what makes it especially rough is if you manage to keep your feelings of compassion and have to deal with the thugs, bullies, and other people (often, including parents and other teachers) who are either part of the problem or who ignore it.

Amanda Todd’s story, unfortunately, is not abnormal today.  We live in a society in which many people, both young and old, feel that hurting someone else is funny and a good source of entertainment.

I do not know all the reasons why bullies come to be; I am not a specialist in this field, but, in spite of legal changes being made, bullying is around way too much and is too effective at destroying the lives of our youth.

I think that one of the biggest reasons why it is totally out of hand is apathy and even a slight acceptance of it in our society and in schools.  It is apparent to me that it is going to take a lot of situations in which people who are bullies are made examples out of.  Then, it needs to stem back to the reasons they became bullies and that needs to be addressed in a serious fashion.

It does little good to put a few specials out there talking about bullying being a problem; it does little good to make it illegal  and have penalties if you are being a bully in school.  None of these do much good if the problem is ignored by the very people who are in charge of watching for the problem.

My understanding is that Amanda Todd did, eventually, kill herself over this problem.  She was, according to the clip, followed by this bully from school to school; he never let up.  She would begin to get a handle on things and he would strike again.

My need to know is why has he not been found and arrested?  Why has he not been put through the grinder for what he did to her?  Yes, there were a group of students in all the schools who badgered her and pushed her even further; however, if this one person had not started it; if this one person had not kept it up, she might have recovered and still be with us.

I get even angrier when I read how kids (people) on Facebook manipulated her by making such derogatory statements like “I hope she’s dead!” and others.  Why is that necessary?  Why is it that people have to egg on someone who is, obviously, having such problems?

School people are so impressionable and form clicks so readily.  “Follow the Leader” is very popular, even when the leader is a bully.

I realize that the people I am talking to on this blog, the people I will reach, will, almost totally, agree with me.  I know I am “preaching to the choir“, but I need to say this; I need to get this out of my system and feel as if I am doing something constructive to help rid the world of this problem.

I am not one to start movements; I am not one who will get into this in a huge way; I know it is just not me.  What I hope is that, by reading this, someone (or many ones) will be sparked to do, at least, what I have done, heck – reblog if you don’t want to rewrite, and speak out.

Amanda Todd deserved better and, if this helps even one person, then I will consider this all a success.

If you need help; if you need someone to speak to and no one seems to listen, then send me a comment, send me an email through my Gravitar.  I will try to help, whether it be to listen or to try to connect you to someone.  I care and there are others who care!  Please people, speak up here and in your blogs and throughout the world.  This is one post I would truly like to see the “views” go over several hundred!  That’s not up to me, though.  It is up to all of you out there!!!

One Amanda Todd lost is one too many.




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  • robertmgoldstein  On July 20, 2015 at 1:29 am

    I don’t know how we can have a network that caters to name calling, smear campaigns, lies, and racist innuendo and not have our children think that bullying is an acceptable way to compete. Adults are role models…many of today’s most powerful politicians and broadcasters are shameless liars and bullies…

    Liked by 1 person

  • amommasview  On July 20, 2015 at 12:48 am

    Reblogged this on A Momma's View and commented:
    I just had to share this post! So true! Bullying needs to be taken more serious and that way earlier.

    Liked by 1 person

  • amommasview  On July 20, 2015 at 12:47 am

    I totally agree. I wonder why all those people involved in bullying her which lead to her suicide are still happily continuing to do what they did. Without any consequences. I guess it’s probably due to the lack of a law to be able to get them. As they did not physically harm here really. They “just spoke their mind”…

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  • CELONA'S BLOG  On July 19, 2015 at 7:48 pm

    Reblogged this on CELONA'S BLOG and commented:
    We all need to share this..
    The gospel of anti-bullying, should be sent out fast and wide.

    Liked by 1 person

  • CELONA'S BLOG  On July 19, 2015 at 7:47 pm

    Bullying should be completely stamped out, somehow, anyhow..
    It’s just needs to go somehow..

    Liked by 1 person

  • Just Plain Ol' Vic  On July 19, 2015 at 5:15 pm

    Bullying of any kind is horrible and we as parents, school administrators and adults should never allow it to be acceptable. We should also be very aware that victims of bullying are statistically more likely to self-harm or commit suicide, so never discount someone’s cry for help. I did a post about bullying and how it affected my son in hopes that telling my story would help promote a positive message.

    Liked by 1 person

  • 61chrissterry  On July 19, 2015 at 4:15 pm

    Reblogged this on 61chrissterry and commented:
    This is one to share, thank you for posting

    Liked by 1 person

  • Opinionated Man  On July 19, 2015 at 1:58 pm

    Reblogged this on HarsH ReaLiTy and commented:
    This post should be shared. -OM
    Note: Comments disabled here, please visit their blog.

    Liked by 1 person

  • Nicola Jenkins  On July 7, 2015 at 12:36 pm

    Reblogged this on Blogging About It And More….

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  • Nicola Jenkins  On July 7, 2015 at 12:34 pm

    Thank you for this posting. More than you will ever know. I have a blog of similar nature…and people often don’t understand why it is so vitriolic. I’m doing what people like poor Amanda Todd didn’t get to do to her bullies and abusers because she sadly took her own life. As do many others. I’m shouting for me now…and ALL those who sadly no longer have a voice to shout for themselves.

    THANK YOU once again…many people don’t like to post about internet bullying and sex crimes due to the stigma that surrounds the actions. The stigma that needs to be broken. PEOPLE LIKE YOU HELP THAT 🙂

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  • orangepondconnects  On July 5, 2015 at 10:56 pm

    A very well written post on a very tough and serious issue.

    Liked by 1 person

    • kindredspirit23  On July 5, 2015 at 10:57 pm

      Thank you. It still hits me hard.

      Liked by 1 person

      • orangepondconnects  On July 5, 2015 at 11:03 pm

        It hits me hard, too. The elementary school I had attended as a child was horrible at dealing with the bullies. One kid who got picked on constantly ended up snapping and had to become homeschooled.

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  • Aarika  On November 30, 2012 at 11:04 pm

    I am really behind on reading your posts, but am catching up. I just wanted you to know I am happy to help connect people to resources, no matter what state they live in (and can try to help in countries outside of the USA). Also, there is a training program for those who work with youth that is worth mentioning here:


    • kindredspirit23  On December 1, 2012 at 1:06 am

      Thanks, Dear. It’s wonderful to interlink like this. As for the catching up, take your time.
      The help for this young woman is done. My anger is that the person who stalked her, apparently, got away with it and I don’t see that anyone is trying to find him. If that’s incorrect, I would like to know it.


  • boomiebol  On November 6, 2012 at 10:47 pm

    I heard about this when it first happened…it’s such a shame what kids do these days…for all our advancements in technology and all we still can’t find a way to get along…why kids continue to taunt other ones to the point of death and then continue even after that is sick…sometimes I wonder if one of these bullies is severely punished, perhaps others will see just how serious it all is…


    • kindredspirit23  On November 7, 2012 at 12:29 am

      I think the situation will only correct itself if the reason for bullying and the parents of the bullies begin to change. I hope….


  • southernhon  On November 6, 2012 at 4:27 pm

    This has got to stop. I wish parents and adults in charge would realize that by turning a blind eye, they are contributing to it.


  • Truth and Cake  On November 6, 2012 at 3:15 pm

    This story makes me sick to my stomach. She posted her video (a very obvious cry for help) a full month before she committed suicide and still no one stepped in to make the bullying stop. Getting a child “help” (antidepressants, counseling) is not the same as going after the bullies and holding them acountable. There’s something deeper that needs to be addressed in our culture–the internet has made it too easy for bullies to target and harass victims. This isn’t the bullying of olden days. Now people can humiliate you in front of a much wider audience and in much crueler ways. Thanks for writing about this Scott. I hope something starts to shift. And soon.


  • Marisa  On November 6, 2012 at 2:00 am

    Thank you, Scott for being a “voice!” There are very few things that enrage me more than the topic of this post!


  • buckwheatsrisk  On November 5, 2012 at 10:58 pm

    This almost made me cry, thank you for speaking out, it was my biggest bully who not only tormneted me, but molesed me for years and raped me at 11 years old…i told the mother nothing was done…this needs to stop…even if it’s one voice at a time.



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