Comment become Post

This post is a comment that I made on Alienhippy’s post here ->Post<–.  If you will, read her post, then my comment.  It took a lot out of me to write and share this.


The biggest thing wrong with a lot of people is simply the attitude they take when someone/thing is a bit different than they are.  If this happens, they get nervous; it bothers them and they, usually, respond with anger, violence, shock, denial, or all of the above.

I am a bit different, but most of that is because I was treated with anger, violence, shock, denial, or any or all of the above because I was seen as different.  My biggest difference was simply that I cared about people and things that many others didn’t.  I did not react as a “male” is supposed to.

I am grown now and I understand that how I react now is (was) more passionate, more wonderful, and healthier for me than keeping it bottled up certainly was.  It took a stroke for me and near-death to come to the point of saying, “You all are not right” referring to those who delivered (and some still do) the hate, worry, disgust they were taught to show at people who are loving, kind, and do not quite fit their idea of who I should be.

I try to love everyone.  In that, I succeed; I try to like everyone; in that, I often fail.  Don’t give up; don’t let them hurt you in any way.  You are more like the person I would enjoy being around than many of those so-called “normal” people; I don’t fit there all the time either.  Might be part of the reason I am not married or in a serious relationship.  I think, sometimes, too much.  I can’t let some things go and I know how I will feel if it goes on for a length of time.  It doesn’t work, so I let it go.

I am not alone, as God is always with me, but it would be nice to have others feel as I do and share with me as I would like to share with them.  I don’t worry anymore; I understand that I am, most likely, better off waiting, even if that wait is forever.  I do know how you feel.  I do care about how you feel.  I have been feeling down lately.  Not depression, just that down feeling you can get when you really think things through and it all starts to make sense and that sense is not what you hoped for.

This comment is long enough and important enough that I am going to make it a post and link your post to it.  People need to read and understand and begin to see that “normal” is a wide variation and range and not just a sliver of “perfection”.

In order to fully love and understand, you have to open up and let those others in a bit.  I am talking to those “normal” people who shut the others out.  They, me, need you all to accept just a bit more and be willing to listen and receive our thoughts, words, deeds.

Perhaps, the horrible deeds, the dark things that happen in this world are brought to perfection by God who instills within us words of comfort and solace and shows that we can come together over horrible things and our grief.  Perhaps, it is also to show us that we can start here, but that, eventually, we need this same connection with the good times, and then, with the “normal” times.

To you, Alienhippy, I want to say my heart is with you and I understand “differences” and still want to share with you and Sam and all the others who feels distanced by the ones who want/try to shut us out.  Smile, we are “normal” because all people are unique – we are too.

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  • The Guat  On January 4, 2013 at 7:03 pm

    Saw you at Susie’s party and thought I would stop by. Dude. What a great comment on your part. Very cool of you to speak up and encourage someone else out there just to embrace themselves … embrace their eccentric and awesome qualities that make them like no other. Very cool. I’ve never created a post based on a comment, good idea 🙂


    • kindredspirit23  On January 4, 2013 at 11:23 pm

      Thanks. I like Alienhippy, she is a wonderful person and it hurts me to have friends hurt because people can’t seem to accept them as who they are.
      I will stop by your post; thanks for the drop-by.


  • My Ox is a Moron  On January 4, 2013 at 6:38 pm

    I found you in Susie’s blog. This is a beautiful post about living with your heart in the open. It is a very hard thing to do and many people are so frightened by it that they hurt you so that you will put your heart away. I am glad that you have found your way through some difficult times to a place where you can continue to share this important message.


    • kindredspirit23  On January 4, 2013 at 11:16 pm

      Oh, they can’t shut me up now! lol
      I am glad it reached out to you.
      Love your blog name! I will visit.


  • marrymeknot  On January 4, 2013 at 4:50 pm

    It’s funny I should read your post today because it correlates well with the book I’m reading right now called, “The Soul’s Code”. It can be a little philosophical and sometimes a difficult read, but he designates a lot of time to those who have never felt like they belong. I think we’d all be surprised how common the feeling is for everyone, it’s just not talked about. Good for you for bringing it into the open and saying “I am who I am and there ain’t nothin wrong with that!”


    • kindredspirit23  On January 4, 2013 at 11:31 pm

      Well, thanks! Of course, Popeye started it all with “Eye Yam whats eye Yam and that’s all that’s eye Yam!”
      I have to give him credit. I guess, when I think about it, it took me a long time to get here considering the cartoon guy was hollering it at me since I was about five.
      I will stop by your blog.


  • denmother  On January 4, 2013 at 4:05 pm

    What a lovely, heartfelt post. I got here through Susie and although I have “used and abused” her, I can’t say I’m sorry to have done it! 🙂


  • Kitt Crescendo  On January 4, 2013 at 4:05 pm

    Glad you brought this to Susie’s blog. You’re right…we try too hard to be “hard” or “cool” and instead become uncaring, pretentious, sad…and often, lonely. I think the way you’re doing it now is much better. Good for you.


  • susielindau  On January 4, 2013 at 1:36 pm

    I love this!
    As I get older I realize how far from normal I am and I totally embrace my differences. I am glad that you have come to terms with others who wanted to change you…
    Thanks for bringing the link to my blog!
    Have fun “mingling” at the party. There are some great new blogs to check out!


  • Debra Kristi  On December 21, 2012 at 3:34 am

    It’s like Indira said, there are all kinds of people out there. So many types. Even under my own roof I see multiple types. My daughter is an extrovert to the extreme. I am the exact opposite. My son has a huge heart and feels for everyone and everything, when he’s not buried in his hole of depression. What I’ve come to realize is that those who choose to stay blind to others are only hurting themselves. They may not realize it now, but someday they will. And as much as they anger you/us, we should feel sorry for them and their ignorance. Acceptance is our freedom from the hatred and anger.


  • thehappyhugger  On December 21, 2012 at 3:08 am

    Spoken straight from you very soft and gentle heart, Scott.


  • bert0001  On December 20, 2012 at 10:42 am

    Great post, Scott, thank you for sharing.
    Some of my posts are also reactions to posts by others.
    Thank you all.


    • kindredspirit23  On December 20, 2012 at 11:40 am

      Thank you for the kind compliment. I think many others of mine could be, but I just don’t do it. In this one, I was commenting and had gone on so long, I just decided…


  • alienhippy  On December 20, 2012 at 8:25 am

    Thank you Scott, you are so kind and thoughtful. I’m a little short on words today, in a bit of a shutdown and trying to process. I will probably do some art today so I am not thinking too much. I have read your post and wanted to thank you here on your blog.
    Thank you for your comment that become a post.
    Love and hugs dear friend. Lisa. xx 🙂


    • kindredspirit23  On December 20, 2012 at 11:35 am

      You are very welcome. If you ever need someone “distant” to talk to or vent on, use my email addy and let me know you emailed there.


  • Indira  On December 20, 2012 at 1:11 am

    Hi, There are and will be all sorts of people, normal abnormal, introvert, extrovert etc. We can’t expect others to behave as we like nor do we behave as others like. Compassion and compatibility are the the qualities help us to cope with everything and everyone. Don’t TRY to love or like everyone, accept as they are. My own experience has taught me all this.


    • kindredspirit23  On December 20, 2012 at 11:37 am

      Thank you. My lifestyle asks me to love everyone. That is not so difficult. I merely try to like everyone. I don’t expect that to happen except a vast change in me should occur. Most I can like (read that as “accept” if you wish), but some are just too outside what I can deal with. I see you understand.
      Best Wishes,


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