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The article below is my topic for tonight.
It seems strange to us “oldsters” who have broken up with people over the years and been able to be quiet about it for, sometimes, long periods. I mean, in high school you couldn’t unless you went to a really huge school because people knew everything. Even the teachers knew most of the boy/girl hookups. College was better, even in the small college I went to (back then) you had a lot of people who knew who you were with and all, but it wasn’t headline news if you broke up.
Today is different for most people, even us olden ones. Facebook, in my opinion, makes an absolute mess of relationships. People discuss it; girls talk about how lucky someone is or how could she, while boys, well, boys will be boys. It just gets blown out of proportion when there is an argument if either person lets go on the net or if a friend does. How does this sound?
Girl1: how are you and Guy1 getting along?
Girl2: I don’t want to talk about it on the Net.
Girl1: That bad, huh? Don’t worry, girl, he’s not worth it.
Now, that might not be so bad except that Girl3 is a friend and can see this communication just by watching. If she tells something to Girl4 who, in turn, tells Girl5 and Guy 2, there could be trouble. Ever play telephone?
Now, Girl 1 and Guy 1 get back together, but then Guy1 is told by Guy3:
Guy3: Man, I heard about you and Girl1. That was such a mean thing she said about you.
Guy1: What? What did she say?
Guy3: Well, she said… (and proceeds to tell him what Girl5 told him without telling him who told him)
And now, the breakup is back on.
The worst is that this could all happen on the Net, on Facebook, without anyone coming face-to-face. You could lose your sweetheart, win him/her back and lose again without even seeing the person. Don’t kid yourselves, it happens.
People, I think, get too caught up in the “Reality” of Facebook and the Net. Face it, it is much easier to say something to someone if you are typing or texting it and not standing right there beside him/her.
We are making relationships almost as disposable as water bottles anymore.
What do you think? Facebook good / bad when it comes to relationships?
Do you have a horror story about it?
And, we haven’t even gotten into Online Dating!!! Another time…
Namaste,
Scott
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I definitely think that FB is dangerous territory, as you well know from one of my latest posts. People forget that everything posted on the internet is out there forever and it can be used against you in the least likely of circumstances. People simply have to be careful–and respectful.
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I agree!
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No horror story here to report. What I remember about my sons who are now 29 and 23, they would be on Instant messaging and find out from all the others on the IM that so and so was going to break up with them. Someone would copy and paste them a conversation with the girl at the time and the whistle blower. My youngest son got the copy and pasted news and he turned around and broke up with the girl before she could break it off with him…. Do you follow?? I remember him saying I just broke up with so and so. I was in the kitchen by the computer he was on and said, “Really did you just talk to her ?” he said,”yeah just now online.” I thought wow that was easy.. I guess its comparable to sending a note when we were young… They just seem so disconnected relationships now are built through text more then in person.
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The thing I see is that, I believe, people tend to send first and think second many times. Kind of like shooting your mouth off only the initial ramifications are less online. It is the long-term things that are bad, especially, because it can all happen without you ever seeing the other person again. That is impersonal.
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So very impersonal..
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I agree with you Facebook sometimes may act as a tool, to break relationships. It happens when you interact with the wrong people. I know of many people who use it as a tool to pull you down. It’s sad to see people misusing it in the wrong way.
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Yes, it is, I assume, totally against why it was set up. I read about “trolls” and how they intentionally post some comment to rile up the other person and get them as angry as they can. This is rude and horrid and should not be tolerated. On WP, the delete pending comment takes care of that if the Admin of the blog is watching and reading well.
Scott
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I like Facebook actually, but not for all the dramas and what people have had for lunch etc… I think us older ones are less dramatic 🙂
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I think that is a fair comment, but you, Dear, are not old, just old”er”.
Scott
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How old is old? I think I should send you a mail with my age 🙂
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That is fine…bookman232@yahoo.com is public email.
I will send you my private when you do.
I am curious as to how old you are compared to what I think…
Scott
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hard enough to hook up… let alone break up …. so publicly 🙂 thanks for the humorous twist to a rather harsh reality.
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You are, certainly, welcome.
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