Not me, but you get the idea.
I was sitting here at the computer and thought of an incident that happened about 20 years ago.
After my first divorce (children’s mother), I joined a singles group, Parents Without Partners. I met quite a few friends there and, sometimes, we would go out as a group to a bar and just relax.
This one particular night, it was myself and two young ladies, good friends, and we were at a table talking. As was our custom, we were talking about the other people in the bar and who we would like to take out. I had mentioned a couple of them.
The girl to my right was a person who I told quite a time before that we could be friends, but would never get along as a couple (we wouldn’t). She was harping on me about my choice in women. It was quite funny and I decided to teach her a bit of a lesson. The other woman enjoyed it quite a bit I found out. The conversation went a little like this:
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Her: “You always pick the same women! You always look at the little thin things with long blonde hair.” (Not true, by the way. She was way not this way and we seldom agreed on anything).
Me: “So?”
Her: “How to you know they are good for you? How do you know that someone not like that might not be better?”
Me: “I haven”t met them yet. All I have to go on is looks. That’s usually how it starts.”
Her: “You need to open up. You need to change the type of woman you go after.”
Me: “You see that guy at the bar?”
Her: “Which one?”
Me: “The one on the far left.” (The guy had a scraggly beard, ragged clothes, was quite a bit older, and looked a little like he spent a lot of time here at the bar.)
Her: “Yeah, I see him. What about him?”
Me: “Why don’t you go up there and ask him out?”
Her: “No way! He’s ugly!”
Me: “Then shut up and leave me alone.”
Conversation ended.
She was not happy, but quit arguing with me about it.
Have you ever had something similar happen?
How did you handle it?
I know that outward appearance is no where near all you need to find in someone you really want to spend time with. But, doesn’t it have to play some part? What part?
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Namaste,
Scott
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