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Reblog of Mollie Player!

Link below to Mollie’s summary of another good book by Byron Katie.  I haven’t read it yet, but I do love the quotes.

Mollie’s Post 

Namaste,

Scott

That 4-Letter Word

Hate – yup, that one.  I have seen it off and on my entire life.  However, now I see it a bit differently. Here’s why:

This last election was a very temper-driven one, as Shakespeare said, “Full of Sound and fury, signifying nothing” (Macbeth, I believe).

I look at our nation right now and I don’t see that much has changed.  It is just as anger-filled as it was with Pres, Obama.  People think that his 8 years were directed toward peace and some tenderness.  They, apparently, weren’t listening to the shouting going on behind the scenes, the Republicans who were very unhappy with the results of the presidency.  Even now, those words ring out.

And for those now screaming about the Republicans and Obama rip, don’t forget the “quiet, calm” Democrats screaming and yelling and starting fights at Republican conventions.  Don’t forget all the hate-filled words tossed out now at the current president, Donald Trump.  Yes, all that has changed is the sides.  Hate still reigns.

Not totally what I was going to write about, but I do let my words go where they might.  This all stemmed from a very emotional TED talk:  Revolutionary Love .

You watch all 22 minutes and see if she doesn’t make you either tear up or, at least, think about the way it all is.  Hate is not much of an answer.

I said it started with the TED talk, but what really did it was another wonderful dating site wonder.  Here, I had another woman who wrote tons of wonderful stuff, things I was interested in, a person I wanted to know.  Then, her last line in her profile:

“If you voted for Trump, pass me by.”

I don’t remember if I actually did it, but I know I really thought about writing her back and saying, “Please change your profile and put the last line first.  You will waste less of my time.”

What angered me was not that she did not want to go out with Trump supporters.  That is as much her right as mine to date younger women or non-BBWs.  Both are fine.  So are older women and BBWs.  I have said this.  It is just a preference.  My statement may have sounded the same.  I ask that if you are older or BBW you know that you might not be my preference, however, I have spoken to and been interested in both.  People are people.  You cannot make a blanket statement.  I put those preferences in there because if I decide to meet an older woman or a BBW, then I want to be the one to choose.  I do see that either can be a very wonderful, beautiful person whom I would be lucky to know and, perhaps, even luckier to date.  But I just don’t want to be inundated with them in my inbox.  Let me look and decide on my own. I feel the same for the women who do not wish to date someone who voted for Trump – your choice.

However, that is not the problem here.  The problem is that I mention that there is nothing inherently wrong with BBWs or older women (at least, I try to make that effort).  The women who I read who do not want to see a Trump voter do not acknowledge that a person who supports or voted for President Trump can be a worthwhile person.  They, basically, hate anyone who voted for him.  I have said many times that I don’t fully agree with President Trump’s stands/views.  I do support LBGTQ.  I am fine with single-sex marriages. I am not in favor of just sending all refugees back to their countries (though, if you read, Trump isn’t either).  I have problems with a lot of his stands.  However, I did not want Ms. Clinton at the helm of our country.  It was something I could not support.  And, after watching Donald Trump overcome such odds in the Primary, I felt he would be our best chance of keeping her out.  Do I hate Hilary?  No…I don’t hate anyone.  I just think her agenda does not go well with an America that is what I wish to see in America.  Is President Trump’s vision mine?  No.  But, I think we will survive his presidency better.  It was a matter of degrees.  That is what I wish people would see in place of just hate.

Hate is filling our streets.  We are angry at so much and taking it out on any target we are given that is deemed acceptable by someone we believe in.  Hate.  A four-letter word.  I hope (another 4 letter word) that we will set the hate aside and go more in the direction of Love (yet another).  Be the change…Ghandi was right.  We had to do it.  No one else may.

Namaste,

Scott

I Wish I Could Sing…

I wish I could sing as my heart can sing,

Down from the depths of my soul.

And knew tis true it’s you I’ve found

My one true love for life.

My heart rings true as I pour out the truth

Of a love made not here but heav’n.

I touch it not here upon the Earth.

God made you for me, your life for mine.

My heart pours out a silent request

Heard all around the world.

But words spoken from breast to breast

A silence that stills the dawn.

A proof to me lives evermore

The skies show in the sunset

The colors pale against our love

They rebel against its strength.

So, there will come when only one

remains the other continues on.

I cry when I think of that deep sorrow

the only thing which pales the love.

*****

-Written upon wakening from a dream of seeing my true love dying in my arms.

Namaste,

Scott

 

Sparks and Fire

Again, back to August McLaughlin and one of her posts.  Put the spark back into or keep it going in your relationship with some fairly simple advice.

Link:  Keep the Sparks Going

Namaste,

Scott

The Dating Game

As my long-time readers can attest, I do dating sites.  I enjoy them (well, most of the time) and find it a way to, at least, contact women I would, otherwise, not meet.  I am not horribly picky, but I do have my limits.

I prefer women.  I prefer them younger (at least 1 year) and I am not really into BBW types.  Those are preferences.  I know I won’t do well with a highly religious person (not spiritual, that’s fine) and if you own dogs (more than 2) I doubt we would get along.  If you are really into sports, mudding, 4-wheelers, antique cars, hunting, fishing, or hiking, you would probably do best to continue on.

Why am I beginning a post with what sounds like a dating site ad?  Really just to show that I am a person with ideals, things that have to be and things that can’t be.

I used to get mad at the sites.  I got tired of not even being worth an answer from women.  Then I spoke to a couple of women who used the sites and they said I wouldn’t believe how many men write them each day.  They also said that most of those men were jerks.

I didn’t like the sites (and still don’t) for people who put pictures on their sites in which they are 3-5, even as much as 10 years younger.  Well, I guess if you tell me you are 56, but your picture looks 46 (because it is!), yes, you will probably catch my attention.  What I can’t figure is don’t these ladies realize that, at some point, they will meet this guy who will have a good reason to think he was lied to and walk out or make the evening miserable for both?

Then, finally, the ones who say, “all I want is…” and follow that with several things.  I don’t mind that.  What I mind is when the woman specifically says she doesn’t care about age or looks or money, just so he… I have met all those requirements before and they don’t even write back or it’s an instant rejection letter.

I told my stroke counselor that I have been doing a mental exercise to keep me occupied and deal with these sites.  I am on 2 sites Plenty of Fish and OkCupid.  Both are very good and can be used free with some success.  This is what drew me to them.  I now pay on both, but I wanted the changes; they weren’t necessary.  You could send and receive messages.

So, now, I do a small exercise.  Most days, I look through the pics and find 5-10 on the two sites who I might be interested in.  I make certain they are within an hour or two of me and, if things look decent, I write them.  I try to write at least 5 per day.  I don’t worry about being rejected.  That’s  part of the exercise – to get used to that.  I don’t even worry if they don’t write back at all – I just consider that a part of it.  I find a lot of scammers.  Pictures that aren’t of someone on the site or very little said and some suspicious things.  If I am sure, I report it.  If I am not, I block them.  Anyway, I have been doing that for a couple of months now. So, I estimate 5 actual writings a day and that’s over 300 letters!  Wow!  It takes a lot to bother me now.  And, I have had a couple of dates, 3-4 actually.

So, no Mrs. Right, but I am not sure I  even want that now.  It’s nice to just have the freedom to do as I want, to write who I want.  It’s fun as, sometimes, even though we won’t go out, a woman will write me for a while and we will just chat.  All of that is nice and it’s helping me.  My attitude is better and I don’t worry much about it.

Maybe you are at the point where I was and need to just write.   Maybe you need to really sit down and be honest with yourself.  Are you truly looking for a practical someone or are you looking for that one-in-a-million?  If that’s the case, realize that it means you will have to recognize that person and write and have them recognize you.  If you broaden your search, you may find the one quicker.

Thanks for listening to me go on and on.  I am really starting to enjoy my life even w/o someone.  Who knows?  I may find someone today or not at all.  It’s all part of life and of the story being told.

Namaste,

Scott

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