Spring is Here…Love is in …. heck it ain’t here!

 

I have mentioned before that I am on a couple of dating sites.  I have been talking to this lady since early last week.  In the first conversation, I wrote.  She wrote back, interested, then I didn’t hear from her again.  I wrote back making sure she was okay.  She had met a guy and thought it was gonna be someone she wanted to try with.  That’s fine.  I always want people to be happy.  I told her good luck and if it didn’t work out, drop me a note.  That never happens, btw.  I am not dumb.  It’s just a nice way to leave the ball in their court.  She writes back the next night, telling me he was a loser.  I asked her if she still wanted to go out.  Here is the conversation following the early pleasantries…  What I want is for all of you to read carefully and see if I was wrong or if I was being played or what…  Those of you who know me, know I would write and apologize if I was wrong…


Scott

3/19/2017 3:08:09 PM

Have eaten there – lived in @@@@@@@@ for over @@ years.
Have not been to the BBQ place.
Have eaten @@@@@ since college and 18, kinda miss it.
I do enjoy frozen shrimp, tacos, and chicken.
I worked at Pizza Hut for awhile, so do like them a lot, as well as Cracker Barrel (my fav).
Watched “50 First Dates” and really liked some of his other stuff, but I don’t like some of his movies…I love Keanu Reeves and Anything with Jessica Alba in it.
How do you feel about Thursday this week for meeting?
Scott
PS – I have a blog I write and@@@@@ is another blogger. She writes books and lives the @@@@@@@ very well.

Her

3/19/2017 7:22:25 PM

Thursday could be good…?

Scott

3/20/2017 3:28:04 PM

It sounds good to me and it is looking good on my schedule. You think about it and let me know whether you wish lunch or dinner as i don’t know your schedule. @@@@@ is fine for the meal unless you want something else.
Scott

Scott

3/20/2017 3:29:22 PM

Hmm, I don’t remember – do we need a reservation?

Her

3/21/2017 12:48:26 AM

I don’t think so…I haven’t had to make them before. Wow I had a reeeally long day at work, then went singing and stayed out WAY later than usual. I hope you had a really good day. Might want to call and see if they are open through the week for lunch, really not sure? I know they are on the weekends. I can give them a call tomorrow and find out.

Scott

3/21/2017 3:37:48 PM

That would be great or we can just go Saturday for lunch. It’s really up to you. My schedule is pretty flexible at the moment.
Let me know. Sounds like fun. Singing? Karaoke? What song(s) did you do?
Scott

Her

3/23/2017 11:43:23 AM

So today is Thurs – we could have dinner then go for some singing if you’re interested?

Scott

3/23/2017 3:34:42 PM

I didn’t’ hear from you last night and I have now made plans for tonight.
Are you up for Saturday lunch? I am fine with also going for singing, but I may just listen – been quite awhile.
Scott

Her

3/23/2017 4:21:21 PM

Oh wow, really? I was having a terrible headache yesterday, my son came over, fixed us some steaks for dinner and actually stayed until around until midnite-he never stays that late, think he was worried bout his mama..hadnt had a headache like that in @@ years or so. But you and I had plans all week, well, thought so anyway. Guess you werent THAT interested, I wish you the best. Tryna find a man who is good to his word isn’t easy, thats for sure. Good luck in all you do.

Scott

3/24/2017 12:01:06 AM

Hmm, ok, but if you look back, things were never settled…
It’s fine. I didn’t think you were all that interested either…this kind of says it all.
Not mad, just disappointed.
Good Luck to you, too.


Can’t wait to hear from you all.

Namaste,

Scott

 

A Past Favorite – At Least, of MIne!

Years ago, four, I believe, I caught a show on BGT that took my breath away.  I listened again…it still does and brings a tear to my eye.

For your enjoyment, now, as it might have been then:

The Impossible Dream

Namaste,

Scott

I Sit in the Corner – Revisited

I Sit in the Corner

Years ago, I wrote a poem and though it didn’t receive accolades, I love it very much.  It is listed in my history markers to the left, but I wanted to revisit it and let you read if you haven’t.

By Scott L Vannatter – 07/05/12
I sit in the corner, a ragged doll,
No bones, no frame, no peace of mind.
Using a nail to scratch the floor
To make a difference, for one to find.

I sit in the corner, a woolen cloth,
Just feeding moths as I slowly die.
Once I was used to cover a toy
A shiny doll, cherished so high.

I sit in the corner, now an old box
My insides poured out; I tossed aside.
Used for holding treasures dear
A doll and blanket did I hide.

I sit in the corner, crumpled and torn
Wrapping paper of colors so bright
Covering a box filled with toys bought new
To give a child a time filled with light.

I sit in the corner, growing old and grey
Ignored by most my time spent all
Did my duties and worked and helped
Now I feel just like a doll.

 

Namaste,

Scott

A Sobering Conclusion…

I watched “The Arrival” tonight.  Amy Adams is gorgeous, but that has nothing to do with the post.

2nd thing:  I read a FB plea tonight to get people to have their representatives vote down HR 610.

These two seem totally unconnected, along with several other things I could mention, but it all kinda fell together for me and I have begun to really put some deep thought into a notion.

*Following may be some spoilers for “The Arrival”.  You have been warned*

The movie affected me deeply.  So has a lot of things lately.  The election.  The riots.  The violence.  People talking.  The lack of quiet outside.

As I take it all in and look at the big picture, what I see is that people are never united anymore.  No matter what is said, I mean NO MATTER WHAT is said, people will split on what it means and how to deal with it.

In the movie, the world was nearly destroyed because a few words could be taken a couple of ways.

I read through HR 610.  Not saying good or bad, just read.

I am realizing that, no matter what President Trump does or doesn’t do, he is nearly doomed to failure, at least, by the people.

I get up each morning and, as routine, do my daily things on the computer.  One of those is simply to log in to FB and scroll down 8-10 pages so it is loaded, then start at the top and read.  I don’t get on there to argue or dispute, simply catch up on what people are doing and/or saying.  What I find usually has me saying something in return, good or bad.

So, HR 610 is a budgeting bill for Federal Aid on education and mentions a voucher system.  Not commenting, just stating.  It was stated by someone and most of her followers will, probably, agree with her.  They may or may not (probably not) contact their representatives, but they will agree with her.  But, there will be those who won’t.  And, a few of those will disagree vehemently.  They may not even state this on her FB, but they will do something, say something, tell someone, tell anyone.  They will sow those seeds of discontent, just as she has with her initial post.

I have looked at a lot of things the President is doing.  One of these is the border wall.  Now, I make the statement that if President Trump gets the wall built, if the wall is paid for by Mexico, if the wall keeps drugs and illegal immigrants out of the US, if the wall helps with National Security by keeping ISIS radicals from getting in, if all of this is true, and if this is the extent I am talking about with this example, let me tell you where the US people are and what they have become…

All of those things are good things.  There is not one thing I have stated above that would be bad for America or Americans.  I did not mention anything except the wall.  However, if I put the above paragraph on FB what will happen is that there will be splinter groups.  And not only will there be splinter groups, but some of them will use outside logic to make their stance.  They will talk about all the illegals who are here now.  They will talk about the rich and the poor.  They will talk about voting rights.  They will talk about everything except the wall.  Why?  Because what I said about the wall, all the IFS, do not allow for an argument.  It’s like if I hold up a playing card so all can see and it has an ACE of SPADES on it.  I say “This is an ACE of SPADES.”  There is not much room for argument.  However, if some splinter group member says, “That’s not a real ace of spades.  It isn’t a registered copyrighted card for the abc company!”  Now, there is an argument. Now, others can get excited and say, “Yeah!  He’s right!  And I bet that’s not even a real card from a real deck!”  And off we go…

This post came about because of the movie.  It also came about because of all the things I have been seeing that show me how we have become people who simply like to argue.  We don’t want to fit in, unless we do…People have their opinions and they must be right.  It isn’t that they want to be right; they MUST BE RIGHT!  Any argument that keeps their side alive is valid, even if it has nothing to do with reality or even the point trying to be made.  It is simply an argument continuing means all sides are still alive.

“Do you have an apple?”

“Why would you want an apple?  An orange is so much better.”

“But I asked for an apple.”

“There you go.  You keep talking about apples, when oranges are so much better.”

“But I really need an apple!”

“Apples don’t carry the levels of vitamins that many other fruits have.”

“Just give me an apple!”

“In fact, apples are one of the least colorful fruits as decided by several independent groups.”

“I am doing a school project.  I need a fruit that starts with an ‘A'”.

“Well, why didn’t you say so?  Let’s talk about apricots…”

And so it goes…my point?…people argue.  The problem is that we have elevated that to the level that our arguments now carry violence and weapons and even global issues in them.  We almost argue without thinking…

“He can’t be right! He’s a democrat!”

“You are listening to him?!  He’s just another republican talking!”

It’s bad enough when it deals with political issues, but it spills over into arguments about:

Race, Religion, Sex, Gender, Medicine, Old Age…the list is nearly endless.

This has become serious.  If you don’t think so, just go to FB and begin reading for about 20 screens.  That should be enough.

I shake my head and find myself wanting to argue simply because I begin to hear every argument as coming from an idiot…

Help me, I am beginning to become a part of the swarming void…

Namaste,

Scott

What’s in a Date? Don’t Know…Haven’t Been…

Life is wonderfully strange.  Sometimes, it’s wonderful; sometimes…well, you get the picture.

I have had a strange few weeks.  Let’s share, shall we?

I am on a couple of dating sites.  I work hard every day to keep track, keep up, and do things that may help me.  I write to everyone who writes to me.  I think about what they say, how they say it, then decide how I will respond.  I always respond.  I figure I would want the person to respond to me, so I do the same.

Recently, make that 2-3 months ago, I started a conversation with a woman who lives nearby.  After the usual stuff to see if she was a player or scammer, I opened up a bit and talked.  After a time, we decided to meet.  I sent her my email and phone, just in case, and we set up a date to meet.  I would take her to a movie and dinner.  As we talked, I felt this was bothering her.  We changed the date to just dinner nearby, so she could meet me there.  That was fine.

The evening came and I went to the restaurant.  She didn’t show.  I waited about 1/2 hour then went in to eat.  I realized that I had not checked the mail at home to see if she was still going to make it.  When I got home, I did.  She had messaged to say she couldn’t make it.  Okay, message received.  I wrote back, we talked.  We set up a second date.  Same place.

This time didn’t work out, but I knew it in time.  We set up date number three for today.

I went to the same restaurant.  I got there about 7-8 minutes early.  I waited 1/2 hour.  She didn’t show.  I went in and ate, relaxed, made some phone calls.  When I got home, I checked the site. No message.  No email.  No phone message.  I never received a text.

Now, I don’t consider myself a stupid man.  I have not sent her a message.  I will not.  If she should send me a message, fine.  I will write back.  I see no reason to try this again.  She has some health problems.  I understand those, perhaps, better than most.  However, if they cause her to miss dates like this, I have no interest in starting up a relationship.  So, I am done and we move onward.  It would still be nice if she would simply drop a message and tell me why.  Even if she says she never intended to go out (She won’t do that, but still).

I would love closure, but this will have to be mine.  I suppose she could have even passed away.  That’s a morbid thought and I hope it isn’t true, but that’s one of the problems with online dating.  I have had several Facebook friends pass and the only reason I knew is that I had some common friends with them and found out.  So, yes, she could have had to go again to the hospital and may be gone now or still there very sick.  I won’t know unless I am told.

People blog all the time about their dates and lack of dates.  I know my story isn’t so very special.  It just happens to mean more to me.  I will find someone else and move on.  We all do that.  I suppose someone may ask about this site?  Yes, she has the link.  She could read this and, if she is a player or scammer, she will steer clear of me, perhaps even laugh at all she has accomplished.

This post has gotten darker than I intended, but I have always allowed my posts to go where they head.  This one is here.

Have you had bad experiences with online dating?  What do you even think of online dating?

It seems funny to me that I write dating profiles for others on http://www.fiverr.com and do it very successfully, yet, I have all this trouble.  That is ironically tragic, almost funny…not laughing, but still, almost…

Namaste,

Scott

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