Relaxation Wherever You are

In the last few weeks, I have discussed this several times in my blogs, on other blogs, or in person.  I began this process about 30 years ago.  I used to listen to a self-hypnosis tape while I did it and that helped a lot.  However, I have found recently that it helps me anytime I need to relax and I don’t need the tape anymore.

What I think is important is that you turn inward and ignore what’s going on around you.  When I was in the hospital and the nursing home here recently, I used this a lot through the days and nights to calm down, rest, and/or sleep.  It worked well for me and I decided I should share it.

When I do it for resting or sleeping, I try not to move, just relax.  After about the 3rd time, I notice that I feel so much calmer and can close my eyes and mostly ignore whatever is going on around me.

What could it hurt?  Try it for a few weeks.  If it works even just a little bit, that’s a good thing, right?


Originally, I wanted to say that I don’t get stressed out anymore since the stroke, but that isn’t quite true. I do realize that when I realize I am going to have to do something that will be difficult or long for me, I do get a bit stressed. I can, usually, stop it or slow it down by just realizing that it’s not forever and not quite as important as I might have originally thought. I also use an 8 count relaxation routine that works really well for me.
Count from 8 to 0. Breathe in deeply, then count as you exhale through your mouth slowly.
8- relax your right arm
7-relax your left arm
6-relax your right leg
5-relax your left leg
4-relax your stomach
3-relax your chest
2-relax your face
1-relax the top of your head
0-relax your spine

relaxing can be just tightening a muscle in that area and releasing it (for awhile, then it becomes automatic)
I do this several times with a couple of breaths in between. At night, I do it 5-6 times and it really helps me sleep.
I have done this for years. It has gotten better over time.
Maybe it can help you,




Religion – A Repost

This is a repost of An Opinionated Man’s from 4/22/15 “Why the Word of God Hurts”.

I have gone public with my belief or lack of belief in organized religions.  This article says a lot of it very well.




The Truth: All of It

Not mine, but similar, I think. Source: wikimedia

I sit here typing getting ready to leave the confines and comforts of the Middletown Nursing and Rehability Center in a very few hours.  I have been here for nearly three weeks (21 Days today).  I had a complete anterior hip replacement at St. John’s Hospital in Anderson, Indiana.  The surgery was done by Dr. Graybill from the joint center just at the edge of Anderson.  I won’t say it was painless, but I watched Dad go through a usual posterior hip replacement and rehab and I would choose this one any day.

From what I understand, the main difference between an anterior and posterior hip replacement deals with the severing of the muscles.  In a  posterior replacement, there are several muscles in the backside that are severed, sutured, and then must heal before walking becomes good.  In my case, one small muscle in the front was cut and sutured.  The quad muscles are stretched and pulled apart to allow access to the bones and joint.  The rest, I believe, is fairly much the same.  The difference is that I was feeling better four hours after surgery than I did before the surgery.  This was, mostly, because I had no cartilage left in that joint and pain was constant at about a 5-6 of 10 going to an 8 or 9 many times when I walked.  My range of motion was also much worse before.

Now, I can bend, rotate, move, walk, and sleep better.  Sounds all good and I did say “All” of the truth.  Surgery is never nice.  Even feeling better, I had several bad nights, so much pain and tenderness in my quads that I could have cried a lot, and rehab was, well, rehab.  Walking,  learning to balance, breaking old limping habits was/is tough.  Even more to the point, now, going home, I am faced with continuing to do rehab on my own with a weekly progress visit to the center to keep me strong and going in the right direction.  Hard, yep.  Impossible? Nope, just really hard.

This center has been wonderful to me.  I have made many new friends and many more connections.  I have been able to watch the lives of staff and residents, both temporary and permanent.  I have many stories to share and many things to bring home to my own life.  I won’t say anyone disappointed me, staff, friends, family, or otherwise.  I go home with more than I entered with.  I can’t complain about that much.  In fact, it’s rather nice.

Problems, otherwise?  Well, of course.  My second or third day here, I managed to get something in my laptop and when I closed the lid, I cracked the liquid screen.  It’s useable except for about half of the top left 6th of the screen.  Then, somehow, my profile login became corrupted.  I spent a full day restoring the laptop back to the factory defaults, losing all data in the process. I decided to simply run with the minimum information, concentrating on my browser and what it could allow me.  That setup gave me Netflix, Hulu. and Amazon Prime movies.  I was now set to rest and rehab well.  I also had my kindle and 2 regular books (just in case).  Facebook has kept me very busy and I have enjoyed all my “Words with Friends” games.  I do some online poker (free) and chess.  I have never been bored for more than a few minutes when my computer first crashed.

Now, it’s homeward bound.  I can’t say I am unhappy to be leaving, but it is difficult to go from what has become a fast-formed family.  On the other hand, my home computer is about 16 times faster than this one…you do the math.

Thanks for sticking with me.  I can’t wait to get fully back to normal, blogging and reading posts.  I simply have not felt good enough before now to do so and had to be careful not to talk much about the house being empty while I was online.  You are all wonderful and I am so glad to finally get to share it all.



I am Back!

Didn’t want you to think I had totally left the blogging world.  I had surgery, hip replacement, on the 21st.  Still not up to par, but able to, at least, drop a note here and do my usual thing when I feel badly:  here are a few clips to watch.

These are a bit strange, so if you are not into “different” then feel free to skip, but I found them fascinating.  I hope to be fully blogging in a week or so.  I have missed you all.




Absence Makes the Heart…hmmm

Just a reminder that I will be very sparse (if any) posts for awhile.  I still hope to read several posts a day.  We shall see.  In my absence, here is a list, in no real order, of some films I like that were not particularly watched by the big-time audience.  You may have heard of some, but have you watched all of them?

1)  Benny and Joon (The Dep in an interesting romance)

2)  Wrong Turn 2 (Horror, gross and fun)

3)  Awake (Suspense, bordering on horror)

4)  Darby and the Little People (Old-style comedy)

5)  Army of Darkness (scary and funny, what more could you want?)

6)  Taken (Good Old Liam)

7)  Unknown (Liam again)

8)  The Intention of Lying (comedy)

9)  King Arthur (Clive Owens and Keira Knightley, 2004)

10)  Bicentennial Man (Dear Robin, at his best as far as I am concerned)

11)  Serenity (Sci-fi, comedy, and suspense – Movie based on series “Firefly”)

12)  The Reduced Shakespeare Company

13)  Kiss Kiss Bang Bang – Funny, kinda gross, really weird, I love it!)

14)  IQ (Meg Ryan, Tim Robbins, and Walter Matthau, who could ask for more?)

15)  I will add the newest “Into the Woods”  which was excellently moved from stage to big screen!




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Gypsy's Delight

Faith and Quest

Delirious Antidotes

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Pebbles on the Road

Using humor to smooth out life's bumps

Magical Mystical Teacher

Tales from a Sonoran Desert Classroom

Black and Write

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a whole lot of thoughts, feelings and ideas


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